What a way to waste your energy........

We all get angry or annoyed, it’s a natural human reaction but how we choose to deal with this emotion is the key.  Next time you are in a situation that you feel as though you are going vomit obscene words to someone, stop. Take a breath. And probably a few more. Give yourself a minute to process whatever situation you have been presented with. Notice the changes that happen in your body during this time, your body tightens, jaw is clenched, heart beats faster, all of these are natural reactions  that your body will display. What good can come of a situation when you feel this way?  Absolutely nothing.  Emotions and feelings if we allow them can take over our very existence.  However if we take the time to acknowledge this, and know we are not are emotions, we can make life a little easier.  Once you realize and understand what’s going on inside you, it makes the outside situations much easier to deal with.  If you do this most of the time you realize that the anger you feel will dissipate, or what you feel is stemming from a totally different situation. You don't want to throw old rage on a current altercation.  Underneath anger, there is usually pain, we feel hurt so we lash out.  Most of the time we don’t look back on arguments and say I’m really happy I said those hurtful words, or I’m glad I had an all out screaming match.  Where does that ever get anyone? So why not start in the moment and be proactive rather than reactive.  Kind words get you much further than confrontational ones.  Act in a way of love, because we are all capable of that.  If you take a moment to forgive someone (even if they have not given you a reason to) it makes it easier on you.  We are all human and we all make mistakes, but if we realize this and don’t allow it to take over who we are, wouldn’t the world be much similar? I’m not saying to not get angry or annoyed- because it happens and will continue to happen through the rest of our lives.  But I am saying to look at it though a different paradigm and don’t be so reactive to what you “feel”. Because most of the time if you just give it some time that “feeling” will dissolve and you can handle the situation for what it really is.  And most of the time it’s not worth the energy.  We’ve been given a certain number of years in this lifetime , and only so much energy to use.  We have no way of knowing when that time is up- so to waste it on things that feel bad seems a bit silly , no? Besides it’s been said “The assholes and irritating obnoxious people who make our blood pressure rise and make us want to put our nails on a chalkboard are our best teachers"  So start taking some notes- the more you learn, the less room for irritation from others. =)